RELATIONSHIP series II

God made man and woman to be together. But God has given man wisdom through understanding among themselves to preserve their relationship. Today, I want to share 'letting it out' factor in relationship.

Many at times the things that destroy a relationship, that bring pain, 90-100% of them we are aware (both man and woman). It's either we failed to talk about it with the notion that the other person wil see us as complaining at everything or talking too much or you seeing the other person as always having a flaw, so in turn we keep quiet in order not to hurt the other party or be seen as such. We fail to communicate whats wrong, or what we see as wrong, the problem here is that, if u don't talk about them, the other party feels there is nothing wrong and all this while she or he has been perfect in the relationship because you haven't complained about or talked about what you see is a problem or should be talked about. The danger here is that, if you can't handle it anymore and you begin to complain after years of keeping quiet, the other party will see it as "you have changed" and now lately you find problem with whatever he or she does or complain about anything and everything, then the fights and quarrels start. It's not that they have changed but they are only fed up and can't take it anymore.

Never hide behind. I  "love him or her and don't want to hurt him or her. So you keep quiet about a problem or situation you have seen. You are breeding a potential time bomb in the relationship and it will explode in your face. In most cases the ones who keep quiet are the ones who turn to be hurt the more. Remember never think that when you marry him or her  will change, don't solve a problem in a relationship. Now with marriage, you are only creating a bigger version of the problem.
"The snake that wasn't dealt with in Genesis, became a dragon in Revelations". Communicate your feelings, your fears, your anger, your pain, learn to talk through your problem, face them together no matter how they may hurt. It's better now than later.

God loves you so much that why He always needs the best for you. Like God empowers us to overcome our weaknesses through the Holy Ghost, same we are to observe in our relationships. I pray for a God centered and understanding built relationship. God bless you and Jesus loves you.